Saturday, February 5, 2011

Anger Management

huh..malam ni rase lain ckit la..arini rase marah ckit, marah diri sndri??ke orang len??wargghhhh!!anger ni xleh nak marah org gak, sbnar nye kekadang memang silap kite sndri^^..tadi aku ade usha2 pasal anger management, nak share la..

::Understanding anger::
It's important to realise several things about anger before you start tackling it. First, anger is a normal process that has allowed humans to evolve and adapt. It isn't a bad thing in itself, but problems occur if it isn't managed in the right way.
Anger is also a mixture of both emotional and physical changes. A big surge of energy goes through your body as chemicals, such as adrenaline, are released.
Once the cause of the anger is resolved, you may still have to deal with the physical effects - all that energy has to go somewhere. This can be taken out on another person, such as a partner, or an object - by punching a wall, for example. This last option can lead down the road to self-harm.
The other alternative is to suppress the energy until the next time you're angry. This may mean you release so much pent-up emotion that you overreact to the situation. Realising this can lead to feelings of shame or frustration when you reflect on your actions, and to further repression of your feelings.
On the other hand, just letting your anger go in an uncontrolled fashion can lead to a move from verbal aggression to physical abuse - don't forget, the other person is probably feeling angry with you too.
But there is a flip side to anger. Because of the surge of energy it creates, it can be pleasurable. This feeling is reinforced if becoming angry allows the release of feelings of frustration, or if a person's response to your anger gives you a sense of power.
It's important to acknowledge and keep an eye on this side of the problem - it can have an almost addictive element.
::Recognising why you get angry::
It's important to be aware of the positive feelings you get from anger as well as the negative ones.
By recognising the positive and negative feelings associated with your anger, it's important to find other means of concentrating on the positives ones.
Each person's positives are different, so there will be different solutions for everyone, but some strategies might include:
-trying a non-contact competitive sport
-learning relaxation or meditation
-shouting and screaming in a private, quiet place
-banging your fists into a pillow
-going running
::Anger management techniques::
However, this still leaves the problem of dealing differently with those situations that make you angry. This takes practice.
The first thing to do is list the situations that make you angry. Note down exactly what it is about them that makes you angry - it may be the immediate situation, or it could be that it represents a build-up of issues you haven't resolved.

Now ask yourself four questions about your interpretation of these situations:
-What evidence is there to show this is accurate?
-Is there another equally believable interpretation of what's going on here?
-What action can I take to have some control of the situation?
-If my best friend were in this situation, what advice would I give to them?

This won't dispel the anger for every situation, but when you're angry it can be difficult to assess a situation accurately. If a situation arises unexpectedly and you feel your temper rising, walk away and complete this exercise if you can.
If your anger is not resolved by this, make sure you've given enough thought to what exactly you’re angry about. It will usually involve a person, but not necessarily the one who's the target of your anger in the situation and this is the person you need to work the situation out with.
You need to be sure exactly what you're angry about before you can resolve it. It will usually involve a person, but not necessarily the one who's the target of your anger in the situation and this is the person you need to work the situation out with.
To do this, find a time to raise the problem when you feel more in control of your temper. It may be a good idea to agree a time in advance. la serba sedikit pasal Anger Management..hoho tadi rase nak relax ngan b'lari~ tapi nak lari kat mane tgh malam nih..dalam umah ke??kat luar kang org ingt nak p merompak..hurmmm bukan ke mat salleh ramai yg jog malam??tp korang msti sllu buat banging fist or screamin' tu kan..hehehe..(BBC - Health, 2011)


  1. its true...
    m young but cannot manage my angerr....
    your article really helps..
    jus hope that i sucess apply-ing it to myself..

  2. try to manage it!!
    i believe u can do it, like i did^^

  3. yea..i will!!!!nice blog you have there...
    ure my first malaysian friend..hy hy!!!


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